The Perfect Time
Last week I had a great discussion with a couple about their lives and future plans. They spoke about how they wanted to own a home, start a business of their own, go on a vacation, as well as have more children. When I asked them the specific plans for each of these, I heard a familiar string of excuses. “Oh, the timing in our lives is not right for that now,” “We are going to start saving for the house next year,” and “maybe next summer we will think about that” quickly negated all of their goals. When I asked them what goal they are working on now, all I got was a blank stare from each of them…
Which leads me to my question for the day… Why are people always waiting for the “perfect time” to get started on new projects? To learn a new skill? To start a new business? To get in shape?
I can’t tell you how often I hear:
“When I get a different job.”
“When things are less busy.”
“When the kids are out of school.”
“When the kids are back in school.”
“When baseball, soccer, football season is over.”
“When I have a little more money.”
“When I….. ” (The list is endless!)
People are always “waiting for the “perfect time”… but why?
For many, it’s a great distraction and justification. It helps us avoid the real and “risky” work of doing. For others, perfectionism and avoidance serve as strong armor against potential embarrassment, criticism, and failure. “I could ___ but ___” keeps us safe from pain. Unfortunately, it’s also what keeps us from growing, thriving, being who we know we have the potential to be.
That’s why all-or-nothing thinking - If I don’t do this perfectly, then it’s awful - rarely moves us. Truth is, there is no perfect time and never will be.
Sure, there might be some magic moment in your life where the universe comes together… but that magic moment will be short lived and you will be stuck with all the other “less-magic” moments that make up your real life. Celebrate that perfect moment if/when it comes. But you will miss your calling in life if you waste your years waiting for it. It would be like planning a trip from California to the east coast but waiting for all the lights in between to turn green! It’s just not going to happen.
People often think that everyone else’s moments just come to them. That everyone else has Enough time. Enough money. Enough motivation. Enough information. That logic couldn’t be further from the truth. No one does! It’s a matter of priorities and focus. Tony Robbins put it this way; “One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular. The successful don’t “dabble” through life and aren’t waiting for the perfect conditions. They make their moments… they never wait for them.
What if people waited for the perfect time to have children? I believe most would never have them. But they do… Why? Because a woman gets pregnant, reality hits, commitments are made, and the schedule gets adjusted. The rest has to be worked out along the way! Such is life…
Finally, there is a perfect moment to start something… There is actually always a perfect moment. That perfect moment is NOW… Here… Today… This precise second! It’s your choice… You can “WAIT” for your moment (then spend your life making excuses, justifying and procrastinating)… or you can “MAKE” your moment!
Make it! - Your future self will thank you!
You’ve got this.