Every Choice You Make
Last year, Tracey and I sat down with our third daughter and discussed her future. We have gone through this exercise with her two older sisters and we believe that it’s been a milestone in each of their lives. Since there are a lot of uncertainties in life for a young adult, rather than ask them to decide on a particular career path or to choose their soul mate, we asked them to describe to us the “30,000 ft.” view of what they want their lives to look like in 10 to 15 years.
Do they want to be married? If so, what would their ideal spouse be like? Will they have a family? If so, what will that look like? Will they own a home? Go to work every day? Will they be making good money in ten years? Will they travel? If so, where? Do they see themselves going to soccer games to watch their kids on weekends? Will they go to church? Will they live in the city, the suburbs, or in the country? We try to cover every major aspect of their lives Physically, Personally, Spiritually, Financially, Family, and Professionally.
Once we have a good view of where they want to be, we give them an assignment to put it on paper. To cut out a picture of the home they see themselves in, the spouse they see themselves with and the children as well. Get a picture of the places they dream of traveling to and the things they would like to see and do. The more specific the better!
The final step to this process is the most important of the entire exercise.
As professional speakers, we have taught for years that there is no joy in settling for less than you deserve and that we are all a product of all the choices we make. We’ve seen most people give up what they want most for what they want now and have taught that there are no shortcuts to success.
With that in mind, we explain to our children that EVERY decision that they make, from this point forward, will either take them closer to this reality… or further away!
• Every friend they choose.
• Every person they date.
• Every class they take.
• Their work ethic.
• Their desire for excellence.
• Their character.
• Their moral compass.
• Their ability to stay focused.
• Every rule they keep or break.
• Everything they think, believe, or do.
Each decision will either get them closer to their “Dream Life”… or further away! It’s that simple.This has been a valuable lesson to my children as well as a great reminder for the two of us. Every choice and decision that we make either gets us closer to our dreams… or further away! And Yours Do Too!
Remember, everything in your life is a reflection of a choice that you have made. If you want different results, you must make different choices.
You’ve got this!